Your happiness limit

Where is your limit for happiness? Have you considered that you likely have one?

Here’s how you know.

When you are having a great day, week, or month, when you feel joyous and grateful, do you find yourself unexpectedly thinking about something negative?

This negative thought could be worrying about a loved one,

stressing about your next ambition or activity,

thinking of something unfair or unjust,

feeling guilt because you want happiness for someone else……the list is endless.

Or we intentionally put our foot on the brake and choose an old habit that brings us down or upsets our rhythm of goodness.

In these moments, you have chosen how happy you are allowed to be and for how long. Something in your life has taught you, trained you, and programmed your mind to believe that being happy is selfish, undeserved, or limited. There is only so much happiness available, and you don’t want to use it up, right? Or you may even believe that for every level of happiness, an equal amount of sadness is waiting for you. To avoid the surprise of sadness, we often choose to control our level of sadness by making choices that sabotage the good in our lives.

Have you chosen a level of happiness that you think is appropriate for who you believe you are? When you have a reason to be incredibly happy and grateful, do you find something to worry about? There will always be something to worry about, always. 

If you want to enjoy the beautiful things in your life more consistently and for longer lengths of time, become aware of the rabbit holes of worry your brain automatically runs down.

When you recognize these automatic negative or worrisome thoughts, drop them like a hot rock. Take a forward lean in life towards the things that consistently create good and positive results. Try choosing a positive action and use this moment of joy to launch your mind into creativity. Call a friend, express gratitude, do a workout, or whatever takes this moment to a higher level of joy instead of lowering yourself to the happiness level you deem appropriate. We each have our own evaluation of how much happiness we deserve. We live our lives managing our own happiness level.

You can learn to enjoy the beautiful moments in life for a little bit longer.

Allow your happiness limit to expand and watch how your life expands.

Cheers to finding new levels of happiness! xoxo

P.S. Read The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks for more understanding of your Upper Limits and how to expand them.